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Today I want to chat a bit about something that has been driving me crazy as of late: self-centeredness.

There are so many things going on in the world at large and the world in your personal sphere of influence, maybe it's time to learn about it. Quit thinking all of your "woe is me" thoughts, stop thinking of what you want to say when the person who is talking finishes their thought, and PLEASE stop thinking that just because you are not the topic at hand, that the topic doesn't matter.

Now, does this mean that I don't care if you have a problem? Of course not! I care. Talk it out.
Does this mean that I think it's fair of you to only talk about yourself and all of your "issues"? NO.

Ask someone a question about themselves and then while they're answering, LISTEN. Do NOT start thinking of how you can relate what they are saying to yourself or of anything really other than focusing on what's being said. If you really don't give a flying flip what the person is saying to you, then don't ask. That's your thing, but it's rude to expect others to become your personal sounding board when you don't lend an ear or even ask anything about their life.

So, I am sorry for the rant that this has become. But in closing I would like to say one thing:

People matter. By talking only of yourself and your interests, that small fact is not apparent to the listener. So, make sure they know you care, and let them talk and teach yourself to listen. I am sure you will be happy you did.

No music today, sorry.